Self-inquiry - Is it better to use the first-person or second-person when directing the mind to investigate one's self?

 

One of the most common methods of nondual self-inquiry is to ask the question "Who am I?" This question is meant to direct the attention to the source of one's identity, beyond the body, mind, and emotions. By repeatedly asking this question, one can dissolve the false sense of self and realize the true nature of awareness.

However, some people may find this question difficult or confusing, especially if they have a strong attachment to their personal identity or ego. They may feel that asking "Who am I?" implies a denial or rejection of their individuality, or that it leads to a state of emptiness or nihilism. They may also struggle to find an answer that satisfies them, or to maintain the focus on the question without getting distracted by thoughts and feelings.

An alternative way of practicing nondual self-inquiry is to ask the question "Who are you?" This question is addressed to the presence of awareness that is always here and now, regardless of the changing states of body and mind. By asking this question, one can acknowledge and appreciate the mystery and beauty of one's true nature, without trying to define or limit it. One can also cultivate a sense of intimacy and love with one's own being, as well as with all other beings.

The advantage of asking "Who are you?" is that it can bypass some of the obstacles and challenges that may arise when asking "Who am I?" It can also create a more positive and playful attitude towards self-inquiry, as one is inviting rather than interrogating oneself. It can also open up the possibility of dialogue and communication with one's inner wisdom, intuition, and guidance.

Of course, both questions are ultimately pointing to the same reality, and neither one is better or worse than the other. They are simply different ways of approaching the same goal: to discover and abide in one's true nature. As Sri Ramana pointed out to one seeker, 'how many selves do you have?' 

The choice of which question to use depends on one's personal preference, temperament, and stage of development. Some people may prefer to use both questions interchangeably, or to switch between them depending on the situation. The important thing is to be sincere, curious, and open-minded when asking either question, and to follow where they lead.